About Jan Lindner

Who I am

I'm 32 years old, live in Cologne and have been immersed in the gay dating scene for more than ten years – both personally and professionally. I spent years writing and answering personal ads myself and finding out what works and what doesn't. That's exactly the knowledge I share here.

On schwule-kontaktanzeigen.net I write about what really matters to gay men when they date online: How do I write an ad that stands out? Where do you meet other gay men, online and offline? And how do you handle a first date safely and with confidence?

How it all started

My first contact with personal ads was a community forum that has long since disappeared. I was unsure how to present myself there without pretending to be someone else. Over time I realized that honesty and a clear profile get you further than any staged self-presentation. That experience has stayed with me through countless dates, disappointments and some real relationships.

Today I help other gay men shortcut exactly that learning curve – with real tips instead of generic advice.

What you'll find here

I write every article from my own experience, with concrete examples instead of vague phrases. No off-the-shelf advice, just content that really helps – whether you're just starting out or have been on the scene for a long time.

• Writing personal ads that really stand out
• Honest insights into gay dating apps and platforms
• Safety and etiquette on a first date
• Community topics: meeting places, events, sharing experiences

Let's stay in touch

I love hearing from you. If you have questions, want to suggest a topic or share your own story – write to me. You can also find me on MyGaySugardaddy, the platform where I made many of my own connections.